A: Let's start with who should not do it. Traditionally, close relatives (your mom and sisters) do not host the shower, as this can be perceived as the family asking for gifts. But it doesn't mean that they can't help organize it—just make sure their names aren't on the invitation. Your bridesmaids and sisters should join forces, choosing one person to spearhead the shower effort. Enlist your mom to nudge the proceedings along, so that you can retain an air of blissful ignorance.
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